White Lies

I've really been thinking this through, and I don't know how I really feel.

Are white lies bad??
What is a white lie anyway?
When does it begin to turn grey or maybe just plain black?
When is it a problem?

See, I really don't know. I think we, women, have the gift (or curse...?) of intuition, and so we find out most times when we're lied to. And also, we're the fairer sex, the fragile species, and men almost always want to save us damsels so end up divulging information themselves.

And then we know.

So I'm wondering, when is lying, okay?

I mean, I'm thinking it's okay to lie when :-

you say you're very busy doing xyz when you just want to sleep and you can't quite say so, or saying so makes you feel silly.....

you say you're in the midst of something important when actually you just want to get off the phone......

you say you earn $3k when it's actually $2.5k .... (heh.)

BUT,

is it still okay when you lie about where you've been, even though, maybe, just maybe, you weren't doing anything wrong...?

when you lie about your past, that might have seeped into your present just a wee bit....?

and you still lie when you're found out....?

I mean, it's not okay, is it?

Is it...? I don't know.

I just know this.....harmless or not, when you lie, and you're found out and you still lie, trust hits zero, and sometimes that becomes irreversible.

And it's such a pity.

because it's something even the sugared words, incessant hope and requisite snuggles won't cure.